很久没来space写点什么了。上班一年多来，工作越来越忙，白天整天对着电脑，晚上回来没精力也没心情再开电脑抒发什么感想了。其实最主要是因为人一旦忙起来，大脑始终被工作上繁琐的事情占据着，忙里偷闲放松大脑都时常顾不上，哪来的时间胡思乱想呢。不像以前当学生时，除了睡觉时不用胡思乱想，随时都可以海阔天空，想法就越多，情感也会更丰富。突然很怀念学生生活，虽然刚毕业不到两年，但似乎它已经离我很远了。。。不知道上班族是不是会变得越来越麻木，因为没有时间观察生活，没有时间思考，没有时间感动。 或许有人会问，在这个拿钞票拿权利说话的年头，人情味能值几个钱，真正的“感动”还存在吗？回答是肯定的，也是矛盾的。很简单的道理，if you want to live a good life, take the money; or if you want to live a meaningful life, give it to the poor; what should you choose? 上帝还是撒旦，往往仅一念之差。Life is all about choices... to be or not to be, its always a question.又胡思乱想了, 言归正转说说今天晚上刚看到的一幕吧, 当然是感人的一幕, 因为似乎很久没有感动过了, 所以又有种久违的感觉.

 

晚上在宾馆吃晚饭的时候, 注意到对面桌有一对特别的夫妇. 两人大约30出头, 男的胸前象小孩子吃饭那样围着一张餐布, 女的一直用勺子给男的喂饭, 擦嘴, 问他饭菜好不好吃, 男的一边大口吃着送到嘴里的食物, 一边注视着女人, 嘴角带着笑容, 象个小孩子一样不停地点着头. 女人微笑的脸上带着幸福和平静的神情. 乍一眼看到他们, 我以为又是一对甜蜜夫妻到大饭店来共度周末晚宴了, 只是感觉有点奇怪, 这种场合下这样的举止未免有些不合适, 一个30多岁的大老爷们公共场合下还不会自己动手吃饭吗,真是比20岁的小青年还会"出风头"啊, 我暗笑了一下. 但之后当我从他们的桌子旁边经过时, 我才惊奇的发现男的是坐在一个轮椅上。因为太吃惊了，我忍不住偷偷多看了几眼，那个轮椅不是普通的那种轮椅，他的那个椅子要复杂精致的多，应该是根据他的病情特别定制的。因为他坐在桌子里面，而且大家都是坐着吃饭，不仔细看确实察觉不到。那个男的应该是患了很严重的残疾，整个身体都无法动弹，双手放在腿上也一直没动过，或许只能头部活动。男人患病的时间应该不短了，也不是短时间的病情，不然也不会有这样专业定制的轮椅，女人的脸上也不会有什么安定自然的表情。这时，我顿时明白了他们两为什么会有那样奇怪的举动，这样想来，就一点都不奇怪了，剩下的只是惊讶，感动和敬佩。。。难道不是吗？ 当你我还在为一无所有的爱情犹豫困惑，还在为“面包”还是“爱情”的选择艰难抉择，还在因为他或她不能为你提供想要的一切而烦恼抱怨时，有人已经用行动回答了所有问题。当她发现男人再也站不起来的那一时刻起，她是否也曾面临过艰难的选择，留下，还是离开？其实，对于这个不幸的女人，当灾难发生到她的身上时，留下，或是离开，在我看来没有绝对的是非之分。

Every free man has the right to pursue a better life, and everyone is selfish by instinct, nobody would like to give out for free, except there is undetachable love. Although i have no idea what finally kept her stay with her man, is it out of  love or simpathy, i don't know. What i do know is that she chosed to stay and took good care of him since then and what she has done is shockingly heart-touching and incredible. However, It is very hard for others to judge her whether she has made the right decision or not. Faced with her was two choices," to live a life worthwhile, stay with him; to live a better life, leave him." but which life is happier?? we don't know, only she knows herself.

 

Actually What is more intriging to me in this case is to think more in the man's position. He is a lucky guy since he still has his wife with him after the disaster came up, which is a rare case in this ocassion. Then the dilema becomes, "will you marry a man who will take care of you when you are badly sick, or a man who is nowhere when you need him but leaves you nothing but money? "  These are two extremes of life and you never know what gonna happen to you...but ask yourself, what's the chance the second senario will really come to you, just like your older sisters always said to you,"wake up big girl, dont live in your own fatancies, welcome to the real world!" so the first senario is something we really should worry about....so girls, start thinking about it. if you already have a man who is preparing you breakfast, walking you to work, and back home, tieing your shoe laces, surprising you with a warm hug,  or doing stupid things to make you happy, then please don't be too mean on him when he can't clean the room as you demanded, or when he can't offord to buy you a piece of jewery you wanted, or he can't offer you a bigger place for you to live...  Maybe he's already doing his best but you asked for more, so why not give him sometime.  I don't say it's the best thing to do, but its the right thing to do at the time being and only time will tell the anwser...

 

don't judge me, correct me if im wrong :)